I am sure that most of you reading this have in one way or another heard the phrase “don’t assume anything because assuming makes an ass out of you and me”. However, if you stop what you are doing and look back at things you have said and done, how many times have you passed judgment on someone else with out knowing their story? I hate to admit it, but if I’m being honest I have found myself passing judgment in the past. In fact it took me recently starting over and coming to terms with my past to understand that you NEVER really know everything about a person. I am sure there are plenty of people who read my last post and had NO idea I struggled with a past of abuse. Just like you think you may know someone so well, but maybe you don’t.
Ok, so why am I writing this post? I have recently found myself feeling judged by others close to me, and have struggled with how to move on. At the end of the day I am who I am, and if the people around me can’t accept that… It’s a shame. I am also writing this post in hopes that the next time you go to pass judgment on someone you stop, and remember you NEVER know. This applies to strangers, but it also applies to people you have known your whole life, best friends, parents, brothers/sisters, etc. Just because someone chooses to live their life differently from yours doesn’t mean their way is any less valuable. Just because you don’t understand someone’s point of view doesn’t make it invalid. In fact if we stopped and listened to others, we could gain more perspective than we had before. I am sorry, but no one is perfect, not even you.
If there is anything to take away from this post, please just remember you NEVER know. Your best friend could be struggling with their past and things you don’t know about them. Your sibling could be struggling with not being able to find a job. Your parents could be struggling financially and don’t want their children to know. The person making your coffee today could have recently lost a loved one. You just NEVER know. If you are reading this and find yourself motivated to pay it forward, thank your barista, leave a larger tip than usual, send that encouraging text, or simply smile. Don’t forget that something simple could turn someone’s day around.